Some: one vs. body

Well, here I am again. It is 2010 (happy new year by the way) and I have some fresh perspectives on a few things. Surprise, surprise they are mostly things having to do with relationships but hey, being a single gal in 2010, this is part of the gig.

This all started with a conversation I was having with my dad. Now, a conversation with my dad can go in 1 of 2 ways. 1) Random hilarity that contains -6 ounces of seriousness or 2) Profound and enlightening ideas and thoughts about this thing called life. This conversation would fall in the #2 category. I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it since. We were talking about relationships which is something that is always on my heart, usually on my mind, and never out of sight. We were talking about the difference between “someone” and “somebody”. Most would argue they are the same word but to me there is a world of difference between them.

I think one of the biggest problems with my generation when it comes to finding relationships is everyone is looking for “somebody.” And that is just what that is…some-body. People confuse what is right on the outside with what should be right for them on the inside. By “outside” I don’t just mean appearance, I’m talking about possessions, status, success, family, friends and everything you might find on a checklist. In layman’s terms; the resume is a whole lot better than the interview. These criteria are the weather equivalent of the foggiest day. They keep you from seeing what you need to be seeing. The most frustrating thing for me to see is two people together for the sake of having somebody. Who wants to spend their life with just somebody? Not I. Please don’t think I’m casting stones, I have been guilty of this which is one reason why it was such an epiphany for me.

Someone. One. The one. Your person. The one God has for you and not the one man thinks you should have. The one that enhances you and not your reputation. It just sounds good to me. It’s appealing to me. There is an exclusive ring to it. It’s like the VIP of relationships. I choose you and you choose me not because you’re lonesome or desperate or bored, but because you have a choice. A free choice and I’m it, and for the right reasons. The true reasons. Ok, think about it this way and flip it around to the other side of the relationship. Wouldn’t you rather be a “someone” rather than a “somebody”?

I pray for the discernment to always see the difference.

So, people of the single super-highway, put all your somebodies back on the shelf where they belong. You don’t need to be playing with another person’s someone, they aren’t yours to begin with. Use all that time and effort  for the continued search for your someone.

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